City and I are doing very very well. The one thing I like about him the most is that we actually talk. We talk about everything. Any time we try/attempt to get into a dispute, we usually solve it within the hour. Like there is no...fighting for 2-3 days thing. So our communication is up to par. And I truly do love that.
But in that, I can say that it does/can get a little "smothering". But I'm starting to get better at just telling him to "please give me a little room". And he does. He will apologize...say he just likes to be around me...and that's cool. I don't mind it at all, I'm just glad he understands.
So - we had kind of given up on getting the house that was a few doors down from his mothers. 1) - I was not very happy with being so close to her, especially because she is so controlling, etc. 2) - We would have had to get all the windows in the house replaced...they were old. 3) The layout of the house was unique - also weird. It would have been a little odd to try to fill that space without all the rooms looking so disjointed (ie we would have had to have a matchy-matchy house).
That was fine. We found another house that was much much smaller, but a good size for first time home buyers. Plus, the WHOLE house was completely refinished. And all the rooms, given one, was painted with new carpets. We were going to put an offer on it last Thursday ---- but his mother was really adamant that we go look at another house that was, again, very close to her. Both City and I really didn't want to go.
Yeah, so when we pulled up...City and I looked at each other like DAMN! The house was very nice. We go inside...and for the first time since we've been looking at places....we both instantly fell in love with it. The layout was PERFECT! The kitchen was the biggest we've seen out of all the houses we are looking at....the dining room was huge and had this pretty bay-window. The living room was HUGE and also had a bay-window. The master bedroom was actually two rooms (they tore down a wall and made two bedrooms into one) --- but they put french doors up between the two. I mean...it was gorgeous. There was another room, small, close to the master (which we decided would be the baby's room....I'll get to that in a minute).
Then in the basement there was a fireplace, a huge laundry/work room, and two very big bedrooms. Also, the bathroom down there had a whirlpool tub. The backyard was also pretty spectacular. It had a very big deck, had lots of newly planted trees (big), all kinds of plants...and right beyond the fence was a creek. AND there was a side room attached to the house...which was a big size. I believe that two sides of that room are screened in too. Its gorgeous.
So, the house is listed at $319. We didn't really want to go over $300. So we put in a bid for $295 to see what they would say. We did that on Friday --- with the stipulation that they had to tell us within 48 hours if they accepted or not. And if they didn't accept...we'd go to bidding wars to get it. I mean, City and I really really want this house. Right. Check this....the realator of this particular house, doesn't work on weekends. HUH? What damn realator doesn't work weekends. Omg - i was so pissed when City just called and told me that. So instead of finding out today, we have to wait until tomorrow to hear something back.
So on to the baby thing.....
Right...we decided that we want to have a baby. Um, we were "attempting" to wait until we had been in the house for at least 3 months. (No I'm not pregnant now...uh, I shouldn't be pregnant now anyway). But he said he would rather wait so we would know how much our monthly payments would be, but if I did get pregnant, it would be ok.
This is our "real" problem though. I hate my job. Like hate hate hate it! But this is a good department/company to have a baby. I mean...it's just good. How it goes is...if you get pregnant --- they move you off of the streets (ie you can't be pregnant and work regular patrol in the streets). So, I'd get an admin job. And with my sunny-ass-disposition...I'd likely come back to work after maternity leave and stay in an admin position. Cool. So it's kinda worth it to stay. But I hate this place. The dumb ass things that have happened, leaves a sour taste in my mouth..for real.
So, him and I are both trying to deal with that. Because if I try to get another job...we'd likely have to wait upwards to a year before we got pregnant....and neither of us wants to wait that long. But yesterday I cried for a good 20 minutes in my damn scout car, because I hate my job so much. Yeah --- it's like that. I should have called him and told him...but I didn't. I didn't tell him until he got to my house later that night. Also, he graduates in May...oh shit, next week. But he starts grad-school in the beginning of June. So we will both be relatively busy for a litle while.
But I want to get pregnant NOW. I don't know why...I just do. Which is weird, cause ya'll know how much I umm.....well, I've just never been "pro-baby" when I see my life. Never really have been. And I don't think it's my "clock" that's ticking and I want to have a baby. I don't really sit around and am like "oh my god, I want a child". I don't even see little kids and say "oh I want to have a baby". When I'm with him though, I think...hmmm a baby would be nice.
I know that's a pretty big change for me...but hell what can I say? I'm getting older. I can't be like 39 havin my first kid.
But anyway...that's about all for my update. Talk to you kiddies later :)